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40 Things I Love About Myself

The following was in my digest ML from MEDIUM. I thought it would make a good writing exercise as well as an idea for one’s journal.

For the exercise Do the same as this guy did. Write Well at least 10 things You like/Love about yourself. For myself I’d have to say the #1 item would be my creativity. And I always have ideas for things (including how make other businesses better, improving products etc. but just don’t have the means of getting them out there and some I think I might need an engineering degree for. If  could ever find someone with the money their money my ideas… we could have the coolest hotel and Movie theater ever. (Even better than Alamo Draft House and tat place Is another home.

As for the exercise, The more things you love about yourself why not split them in half and make 2 star characters for stories! (or a series)

 

40 Things I Love About Myself  (by


You know that annoying dude who takes part in every challenge but always bends the rules to the point where you’re not even sure if he’s playing the same game? That’s me. So when I see everyone sharing 40 things they love, I can’t help but think: “How can I make that more interesting?”

Gratitude is wonderful and there’s nothing wrong with listing stuff you’re lucky to have in your life. But I think coming up with 40 things you genuinely love about yourself is an even more valuable exercise. Because when do we ever take stock of all the great things that flow from the inside out?

It feels more empowering. Kinder. I’m reminding myself of what I have that no one can ever take away from me. They might not all be things I’m responsible for, but they’re mine forever and that’s worth a lot.

I highly recommend you try and come up with a list of your own. It’s hard. But worth every second. That said, here’s mine. I hope it’ll inspire you and make you see things in yourself you didn’t know were there.


  1. Optimism. I don’t know whether I was born with it, raised to be, or cultivated it — probably all three — but I refuse to accept anything other than the idea that the day after tomorrow will be better than today. It’s a great source of motivation to work hard and do my best, and it’s made my life a lot more fun in countless ways.
  2. Blue eyes. It might not be if it wasn’t for this genetic break of dumb luck, but blue is my favorite color. The sky, water, hope, trust, loyalty, wisdom, they’re all blue to me. So every time I look in the mirror, I’m reminded I should stand for these things. Plus Superman, so it wins right there.
  3. Intelligence. I’m book-smart. It’s not a free ride to success, but it’s allowed me to breeze through a lot of things with ease that other people deem complete hell (like school). Sure, I overthink everything, but I can also wiggle out of a lot of situations where being dumbstruck just wouldn’t do.
  4. Terrible puns. If there’s a bad wordplay to be made, I’m there. Life’s too short to skip the crappy jokes. So I take one for the team and make them. And then I laugh about them anyway. Often, it catches everyone else too. Mostly because of how embarrassing it was, but hey, a laugh is a laugh.
  5. I’m short. The older I get, the more I can appreciate my default underdog situation. I might never see anything at any concert ever, but at least it’s easy to prove people wrong. No one expects a shorty to pack a metaphorical punch, but I do and I love the moment people realize it.
  6. Insane memory. The number of TV show lines, inspiring quotes, random facts and song lyrics stored in my brain is mind-boggling. I used to think this was useless for the longest time but now, as a writer, I never seem to run out of references and ideas to connect things to. Score!
  7. My smirk. I have a really great smug face. It says “I told you so” and “couldn’t help myself” and “bet you didn’t expect that” all at the same time. Maybe that’s why it always triggers a hilarious response in the person who sees it and then we all laugh together. Love it.
  8. Introversion. How to take care of baby Nik: Dump him into a pile of Legos, pick him up again four hours later. And now, thanks to this wondrous, connected world we live in, I can use the same quiet and daydreamy-ness to assemble a lifelong career around myself. Winning!
  9. Neat-freak. I’m definitely OCD when it comes to cleaning and organizing. And while I waste a ton of time checking if I have my keys for the third time, I also rarely forget anything. Locking myself out, losing my wallet, not knowing where my phone is, these almost never happen to me.
  10. Rationality. This wasn’t always the case, but thanks to my obsession with self-improvement, you can now tell me something doesn’t make sense, and if it doesn’t, I’ll agree with you and change my mind. Speaking of which…
  11. Open-mindedness. We live in a world where success depends on your brand and all brands must stand for something. Therefore, most people stick with their opinions, but it makes no sense. You’re human. All you do is change. We should applaud people who publicly change their mind, not trash them. From Walt Whitman: “I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. I am large. I contain multitudes.”
  12. Irrational fear of debt. Debt can be a useful tool if used wisely, but most people don’t and never will, so they’d be better off avoiding it altogether. I’ve always done that by default and while it’s not perfect, it served me well. I feel more in control of my financial fate than anyone I know.
  13. Mr. Nice Guy. I’m too nice. I’ll have the busiest week of my life yet still say yes to revising your CV if you ask me. I had to learn not to get taken advantage of, but I’d still rather have it this way than being too selfish.
  14. Paranoia. Being paranoid about people will drive you nuts, but obsessing over plans is useful. I’m always looking over my shoulder. I have a backup for the backup of the backup. You absolutely need some minor obsession with failure if you want to succeed in business (and I guess life).
  15. Goodwill. Because I’m too nice and always have a fallback plan, it’s easy for me to trust people first. Here, have at it. What can go wrong? If I feel treated badly, I can always retreat later. But everyone deserves a shot and most people don’t disappoint you with theirs. It takes goodwill to see that.
  16. Sense of rhythm. When a catchy song is playing, my body is moving. A slight head nod, a tap of my foot, a swaggering step on the street, you are not getting this infection with music out of me. Ever. And it is contagious. It lifts people’s spirits when they see it. Not to mention my own.
  17. Zero poker face. You can read my face like a book. There might be some situations when this is bad like, you know, actual poker, but most of the time, it makes communication a lot easier. And god knows we need that.
  18. Imagination. “In meinem Kopf ist es lustig” means “it’s funny inside my mind.” My head is like that. If I don’t like what’s happening outside, I can take the elevator and land in a world of fun and fantasy. So long, reality!
  19. Being my own best friend. When asked about what depression feels like, the late Chester Bennington of Linkin Park said, pointing at his head: “There’s another Chester in there that wants to take me down.” Things like that make me cry. Because the only other self in your head should be one that lifts you up, pats you on the shoulders, dusts you off and says: “Come on, you’ve got this. I love you and you will figure this out too, like you have done with everything else so far.” That’s what you deserve. Nothing less.
  20. Discipline. I don’t want to do some things any more than anyone else you know. I just grunt and say “fiiiiiiiiiiine, I’ll do it anyway.” In a world where most people fail to show any, having a basic sense of moral duty and obligation to whatever you’re tasked with doing is quickly becoming a way of positively standing out from the crowd. It shouldn’t be this easy, but it is.
  21. Minimalism. This is definitely an acquired taste that was born out of necessity, but it grew into an amazing source of time, energy, and happiness — although none of those things are front and center. To me, minimalism is about making room to solve true problems in your life. To find the resilience to carry on with little when life takes things from you.
  22. Lightweight. I weigh 140 lbs, give or take. Weighing less means eating less, paying less, processing less, spending less energy on making energy. Plus, it means I’m really good at stuff like push-ups, which are a great form of bodyweight exercise. This makes my life simpler and, thus, better.
  23. Dexterity. I’m really good at things like balancing and all sports that involve toggling, hitting, catching or throwing balls. It’s good for fun and party tricks, but it also means I rarely drop things, I can close doors even when my hands are full and I can type fast. Kinda neat for a writer!
  24. Faith. I’m not religious. Mostly because all religions wrap everything that’s good about them into some form of ridiculous, sometimes even inhuman doctrine. But I have a lot of faith and I don’t think it matters whether you call what you believe in God, karma, Vishnu, the universe, midichlorians, Zen, the lifestream or the good spirits of the sitting bull. At the end of the day, you want to believe life makes sense. Whether it does or not is secondary. Believing everything has a purpose is purpose itself.
  25. Manners. Where I grew up, we don’t slam doors. We sit straight at the table and put our devices away. We say “hello” and “bye” and “thank you.” I’m no Brad Pitt so I can only imagine how much this has — sometimes literally — opened doors for me in life. Manners are a very basic form of respect and, again, one that’s often missing today. Check.
  26. Straight, healthy teeth. I can take zero credit for this, but thanks anyway. I knew a lot of kids with braces, retainers, and all sorts of dental, and I guess mental, torment. I’ll take the glasses in third grade again, thank you.
  27. Family first. This obviously requires a family you’d actually want to put first which, luckily, I have. But it’s good to know your roots are something you can always come back to. A safe haven to recover and recharge in. A room full of people who’ll always have your back — and you’ll have theirs.
  28. Language-natural. When I shotgun a bunch of commas all over the place, it usually turns out okay. When I read a line in any Latin-based language, I guess okay. I’m no math guy, but words? I love them and they love me.
  29. My voice. People tell me my voice is very calm. When I did Instagram stories every day, some would listen to them to fall asleep. If that’s not a compliment, I don’t know what is. Can’t sing to save my life, though.
  30. Self-compassion. Related to #19, but when I have a hard time, I don’t give myself an even harder one. I lean back, breathe and say: “Okay Nik, do you want to take a break? You can take one.” Sometimes, I accept. Other times I say: “No, I can take it.” But I always check in with myself.
  31. Bullshit radar. My BS detector is pretty good which, luckily, extends to my own. When a 22-year-old yobbo tells me about all he’s done, but can’t back up any of it, I call BS. And when I tell people something that’s not true or that I haven’t lived through, I call BS. Better for everyone this way.
  32. No complaints. I think most people I know would tell you I bitch very little about things. That’s good. It means I have perspective. That I know most of my problems are things other people wish for. And that in the grand, cosmic context of things, they’re probably not worth fussing about.
  33. Awareness of death. Don’t quote me on it, but the fact that I’m going to die probably pops into my mind at least once every day. I don’t want to and I don’t think anyone does, but I feel much more comfortable knowing the guy with the scythe is always around. If I make an effort of knowing him while I’m alive, maybe he’ll one day greet me as a friend, not an enemy.
  34. Appreciation for the little things. My first (leased) car was a 2010 BMW 116d. I thought it was a huge deal. You know what shitty first cars most people have? A BMW?! That’s insane. And I treated that car that way. It was always clean and every time I opened the door, I felt a little spark of joy at getting to drive. My sense of “this is a gift” wears off rather slowly.
  35. Habit drag-and-drop. When my ex-girlfriend challenged me to drop coffee, I went cold turkey on the spot for 100 days. When I decide to add a new piece of writing to my roster every week, I publish it every week. It took a long time to get there, but being able to change your behavior at with a snap of your fingers is a priceless habit itself.
  36. Loyalty. If I’m your friend, I’m a real friend. Not a fair-weather one. I write, I call, I check in with you. Sometimes, it takes me a while, but I always answer. We all drift apart from people here and there, but for the ones where it counts, I can at least say I make every effort not to.
  37. Work ethic. When you’re working with me, you better get things done. Because I do. When I’m there, I’m there. No 3-hour coffee breaks when we’re on a deadline. I’d rather finish this thing, then get outta here, instead of wasting all this time now only to have to pull an all-nighter later.
  38. Philosopher. If you walked in on me and my best friend casually chatting, you’d probably declare us nuts within two minutes. One is quoting Nietzsche, the other asks whether wormholes exist. I hate small talk. That’s not what we’re here for. I want the big talk. Always. And I love it.
  39. Tech-savvy. I love new tech. I love learning about it, thinking about it, experiencing it. Even if I’m never going to use it. And if you put me in front of something I’ve never seen before, I’ll figure it out. I think this will be a huge advantage when I’m 60, 70, 80 years old.
  40. Romantic. I’m such a Ted Mosby. As I get older, I tone it down and avoid the creepy, not-at-all romantic stuff, but I’ll always be a hopeless ball of goo at heart — and I have a feeling it’s gonna come in handy one day.
 
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Posted by on February 15, 2019 in Focus, Journals, Lists

 

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The Bullet Journal Method

The Bullet Journal Method

Want a cheaper more simple way to plan your life and keep track of things? I’ve seen what is called Bullet Journals, Now I may have covered these before but I really don’t recall if I have. I have set up my own for 2018 but I have some things to change for next year. Also I thought maybe I should have 2. a different one for each year, and maybe a more permanent one,  even if its just to have a record of layouts (templates) to use.

I’ve noticed when I use a journal for the year, that by the end of the year (somewhere between July and October I end up not really interacting with it as I did when I started.

I don’t’ have nice neat handwriting or drawing

The Bullet Journal Method EXCERPT by Ryder Carroll

Track the Past, Order the Present, Design the Future

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Or if you want to try your own here are my recommendations to get started.

 

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Infographic- 28 Boring Words; and what to use instead

While writer and Blogger Jack Milgram  asked me what I thought of his infographic “Boring Words”28 Boring Words

I GREATLY WISH Jack had asked me BEFORE he made or finalized the graphic.

As when you read through my suggestions etc you will find that is just not right or as I called them ‘layered’,  graded or ranked versions of a word. Like Chilly is a little cold, then cold, then freezing. When you are writing you may want to place the usual word there, as well as the alternate word, read the sentences twice, once with the alternate word (to be sure it is used properly. After all New and improved… is not really right if a product is improved, it is not new, there was a previous incarnation of it. It should say NEWLY Improved. Some yes can be used alternately for a word, some (like for old, some may work but may not read well.

Please keep in mind my Judgement on the words is by how they sound on their own in the category, as well as in trying to use them in a sentence. Do they still read well when used in place of the ‘boring’ word. Also, I try to see it as will an editor hack up the book if I were to use these words, same with an office setting (especially if you are an executive) Usually if I feel comfortable with using one of the alternate words, and not feel like I sound like an uneducated idiot, then they pass the tests.

https://custom-writing.org/assignment-writing-services#boring-words

All credit for InfoGraphic as well as the alternative words to use is  by  Writer & Blogger Jack Milgram

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My replies in helping Jack out on the infographic.

on your words for ‘new’   different is not a good word to use in my opinion at all. 

Different is basically when something is being compared so it would certainly not be new. 
‘Virgin’  you buy something called virgin aside from olive oil? New is the best to describe something NEW… Fresh is ok, the latest.  Modern is a little so-so for me as someone can say something is modern now, but it could also mean something from anywhere from the 90s til now in the 21st century. State of the art is not a good ‘NEW’ word as state of the art is something specific. Think of it as something more like the military uses but the common man can’t afford. Usually, pretty much anything you’d see in a sci-fi movie, even the old Star Trek movies (and really never watched them but the few things I see) say their guns that is state of the art. State of the art usually has something to do with machines and technology so not really a good word for new. 

Move EMERGING to words for next as that is usually used for ‘up and coming’ bands artists and that sort but you need to remove succeeding  


Tone is NOT feel,  nor is effect or affect spirit is not a sense so that is not right…Discern… I’m not sure about you’d have to ask a proper English teacher on that one. I read the definition but still not sure. Viibe is good cause that’s another way I am judging these. If I get a bad vibe or feel indifferent that I can not agree with it. 

Lose pretend under seem. Shows signs of and come across as is ok but a little longer (though maybe a bit more sophisticated sounding than seem) 

See what you have under “Best, a lot of them are ‘grades’ or levels of that. You can use all those words for best my argument on that is this…

You have Best, Better and ‘bestest’  (which really is greatest’) just like There’s Cool weather which would be 60 F there’s cold weather 40s-50 and Freezing weather 35 and below.
Terrific is out… doesn’t work in place of Best/ The best bowler got a perfect score.    as to  the Terrific bowler got a perfect score 

in Old get rid of last 3 

in Other  need to lose fresh 

For important I’d take out Essential and meaningful (they don’t hold the power to show importance) same with significant, serious and necessary. 

Depressed is absolutely NOT a good term for sad. I have been through that 3x and too many people use the term when it’s NOT sad it’s beyond that. (Literally, it’s dead man walking… you are the walking dead when you are depressed, or at least feel like you are)  So please take that out. There is a certain length of time you have to be ‘sad’ in order to be clinically depressed. 

Many of the words for sad are just ‘levels’ of sadness. Same with Happy 

basically, most that you used for best and good could probably be interchanged. 

Bad is not evil… Evil is bad but bad is not evil… There IS a difference. 
Cheap and poor under ‘bad’ is insulting to those that are poor and those that are cheap. 

Like and love is 2 totally different things…  Like and admire is ok, they are on the same level, I would say adore and love would be more along the same.. So those shouldn’t be in there.   Treasure I’m indifferent about for ‘like’. I don’t think it should be used for like, more like something between like and love. (well adore should be in the middle of that but I guess ‘treasure’ should be, maybe should be used more for that point where you think you love a person, and want to say it, but are not quite there yet, or maybe it’s just too soon. Oh,And would definitely come after adore!

Haven’t you seen the commercial for the Kind protein bars? Nice and kind are 2 different things. 
in Real…  Original does not fit. 

ONLY   perfectly does not fit, 

I don’t think any of those words for sweet work. Tempting they can be but the words dont work in a sentence instead of saying the sweet donut or something like that. Those words are not a way to describe a sweet or use it alternately usually someone says a ‘tempting sweet’  Frankly Think of saying “I need something sweet, then run through each of the words in the same sentence, what do you think? Do you think someone else would have any idea what you are talking about if you wrote it in a report or book of some sort?

Little, Big, Pretty are all words that describe the levels of size or attractiveness 

Would you all like if I could do a post for’Layered’ words (like for pretty) in order of what ‘rank’ of attractiveness they are for example Cute, Adorable, attractive, Pretty, beautiful, stunning, gorgeous… (oh wait I don’t think glamorous works unless they are glamed up, like they are going to a club or on red carpet)  
Neat is a definite no… that’s so 50s (and sort of their version for cool) and neat describes clean, uncluttered room, and to me that’s the only way it works.



 
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Posted by on March 7, 2018 in blogging, Coherence, Help, Lists, Writing

 

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Creative inspiration

So with it being back to school time I thought I’d try to spark some creativity if not for now, then to give you some ideas for those reports, class and homework.
One of the blogs I follow asked the question How do we find our creative inspiration when you are stuck
it sort of depends on what I want to do as I have a variety of creative outlets (too many and YES there can be too many.. Mama’s make sure your kids only have 1-2 hobby/interests!)
I write poems but the last few I wrote are not finished, so I re-read through them to see if I my muse will help me out and get it finished. Also I have a list of ideas be it possible titles for poems, a line etc. So I check through those as well to see if any would work or if it will flip that  ‘write new poem’ switch wherever it is on me.
Also I make jewelry the craft kind you buy the bits for at Joann’s Michael’s and Hobby Lobby but sometimes some things come out where I have to look again and can’t believe I made it!  I can’t draw well so I try to trace/draw out what I made in a journal and I look at that. Also when I get an idea for something I try to put a few of the beads etc I have in the color I’ll be doing it, in one of those mini ziplock bags   Like a set of earrings or  as I recently have been trying to do some book thongs. (I am trying to find the right red colored beads to make vampire themed ones; however, likely won’t be all the same design. I make ‘custom /one of a kinds’ for less.
Then I also have been working on a patchwork (not a quilt or anything in particular but started out as a body pillow cover and I decided I wanted to make a ‘never ending’ one. Summer seems to be my sewing season so I’ve been trying to work on that as well as recently been making some change purses for friends and family as their or part of their holiday gifts.. also earrings, yes fabric earrings.  So everytime I go to walmart I always check to see if there are any interesting ‘fat quarters’ as they are called, I just call them ‘swatches’  as I can usually get a piece out of it for my patchwork as well as one or 2 other projects (if not more) out of it.
I have a large bin of fabric and I think i have 2 underbed boxes with more fabric (eeek!) or old t-shirts to cut out for my patchwork so I really would like to get a lot of stuff (at least project set-ups if not sew right away. Might have to make note of that in my bujo I started setting up for next year.
That’s another thing.. Journal I write any ideas in a journal or in a note on my evernote account… Check it out here
as you can see I try to keep a ‘file’ of friends’ and family as to what size or if have pierced ears etc. as well as a listing of  some ideas for lines/series.
For writers I will tell you an idea or 2… READ!!! I’ve been inspired by a few books (like a line or a paragraph may have inspired a poem out of me)
Check out other journals, sewing, and other creative ideas fixes on Pinterest! You can follow @kymoDragon and check out my boards for stuff there! That’s where I get a lot of my Bullet Journaling ideas as I’m just starting on that.
also you can follow my Blogs
Crafter Crums  which I not only include posts of my own projects when they are finished, but also curate ideas I hope to do or just liked and thought you might enjoy as well.
My personal posts are usually either a photo or video of the project and sometimes a step by step (and if I think of it, a way to improve on how I made the original item.)
but also curate others
and my writing  blog  Miss Musings Writing Essentials which has Help in the menu on a variety of things (you can also hoover to see if there are more pages for that section) as well as search the blog posts
 How do YOU spark creativity?  Please tell us your ideas… Oh one other one I do for writing
I list a bunch of song titles or book titles or words something of that sort (or have someone tell me some) and I write a story or poem from it. Its more like a writing exercise but it does help.

 

 

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Book lovers décor suggestions

Well it’s that time of year to start the spring cleaning. I hope you haven’t already as I have some organizer and decor ideas for you.

Though I hope if you have a love of books would not destroy them in such a way, especially those that are not old looking books they could be worth money! I can understand old school books for the hideaways or purse or maybe someone gave you a copy of a book you already have. I can understand if you want to do it with the extra but I would rather donate mine to a school, or someone that cannot afford books and has a hard time getting around (to a library)

 

I Iike the  color grouping and giant wall clock! I would use all the janet Evanovich books! That Scrabble letter holder idea, you could also do that with scraps of a type of moulding as that’s what those are. The storage bins ad omg the lamp of large thread bobbins but how the heck did they get them in the wall? and ceiling that I really like!  My favorite though has to be the stairs. I wish ours were like that or even ones that opened for storage.

 

http://writersrelief.com/blog/2015/10/book-decor-hacks/

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2017 in DIY, Lists, Uncategorized

 

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Transition words

First we examine what transition words are, the words that push your story forward. Next we examine how they are used. Honestly if you didn’t already noticed, I used two transition words in these sentences! Add information ‘for instance, when you show an example, or “below” you will find a list of these type of words and the categories they fall under.

They keep order, of First and last, but let’s hope we don’t get into a Who’s on 1st discussion.  They compare things and not ‘in the same way’ metaphors  or similes do. Emphasize your point “which in fact”, make you see the big fat period at the end of the argument “like” the old talk to the hand gesture.  So

here’s the list of the words to use to transition print it,laminate it and refer to it if you are stuck

Now how to use them is up to you.

Transition Words

 
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Posted by on March 22, 2017 in Creative writing, Lists, Writing

 

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Crime novel? – Blood spray patterns

This is so helpful for writing.  At least, I have a feeling it will be.  =P

 
 

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